A New Phase

   Growing up is hard to do. At least, it is for me. I never thought of myself as someone who lacked maturity. Others may disagree. At some point, I hit this place in my life where I didn't really know, ME. I was a mystery to myself in a sense. This threw me because I have always known who I was, where I was going, and exactly what I want. This thing called "marriage" will either break a person or make them stronger... it almost broke me. But now, I am stronger and learning who I am.

 

    In my mind, at least for me, this breakthrough in life was influenced heavily from being a parent. Being forced to make hard decisions and sacrificing comes along with the role. Naturally, one will do such decision making according to experience and unselfishness. Or not. I have discovered, I am a very selfish and self serving person. If it makes sense to me it must be the right way. Right. Of course. Except when your married. When your married you have to factor in "respect" and "consideration". Blah!

 

   What I have come to understand and really truly learn, is that when a person is willing to be a partner in all things, the rest just falls into place. All of the sudden that "respect" and "consideration" is the very thing that holds a couple together. It seems so simple now. The answer. 

 

So, this is my new phase, marriage maturity. After 9 years of marriage, I finally know how to be married.Of course there are other changes that have taken place.... Jason has done much "growing up" too. 

Finally, we are growing together.